Yes, good honest write up that.
I don’t entirely relate to all of it as I’m not that sort of person, but I certainly relate to being happy with my own company when fishing.
Happy to fish with mates but if I’m honest, I enjoy it more on my own.
I’ve always thought you need to be happy in your own skin and with your own company first and foremost, otherwise you’re always relying on other people for your happiness, which obviously is never guaranteed.
I did once do a long interview with a chap who had managed to climb out of a very deep pit of depression thanks to counselling, and a lot of what he said chimes with this chap.
He said he would try and do anything for people, but then their problems became his problems and he’d spend a lot of time agonising over their issues and worrying about things that ultimately weren’t his problem.
Counselling helped him see he was basically taking on a false burden that he had no control over, it was worrying about it as if it was his issue, when it wasn’t.
I’m different to that. That’s not to say I won’t help people, because I do, and sometimes probably do more than I’d be expected to.
But I do draw a line somewhere along the way, because if people can’t or won’t take responsibility and actions for their own problems, there’s only so much someone else can do.
That’s not to say I won’t continue to help or support them, but I think at some point you need to have an element of selfishness and look to yourself simply to retain your own sanity and not get dragged too deeply into other people’s issues.
